My Hope for Marriage March 12, 2010 at 10:21 pm
People have told me that many youth go into marriage expecting to have a halaqah every day with your spouse. You and your spouse will recite Quran together, study together, discuss fine points of religion together, etc.
But I have heard that this rarely happens in marriage. And this is what depresses me.
InshAllah I will not fall into this mold.
A spouse to me is someone much more than one who you share affection and financial assets together. Your spouse is your stepping (or falling) stone to God. If you have a spouse that shares your enthusiasm, your drive for knowledge, your drive for ihsan, then to me THIS is a marriage.
I don’t want my marriage to become a mundane discussion of food and money transactions.
Maybe I’m naive, maybe I’m being too idealistic. But much more than romance what I crave in a marriage is to be able to enjoy the remembrance of God in each other’s presence.
I pray we all experience the same.
aww inshAllah, we all will. :)
subhanAllah, I completely agree with you. The goal to progress spiritually in marriage should be the essence of marriage.
I definitely agree Haseena, and I love you for it.
“Maybe I’m naive, maybe I’m being too idealistic. But much more than romance what I crave in a marriage is to be able to enjoy the remembrance of God in each other’s presence.”
Word Haseena.